In quoting Long, "to expect anything at all from anyone is being selfish". This however is very different from the state of "self-centeredness", a healthy human response. To want what is outside of your own true Being and remain attached is a primal form of ignorance that breeds suffering. All of unhappiness the fruit of our ignorance, and "original misery" is the real "truth of self" as an isolated individual person compulsively driven by his/her desires and fears. As my self dissolves and disappears, this being-ness returns back home to its source, and the soul essence of man resurrected (restored, renewed) in the glorious Light of God and Truth.
(revised commentary above written/edited on 6/30, from the original rough draft of 5/3)